We may all be thinking that we are Aphrodite when it comes to having sex but in reality we may fall a little short, but don’t despair here are a few suggestions to overcome that.

Does Practice Make Perfect When it comes to Sex?

Unfortunately, no it doesn’t. Good sex is a skill that needs to be learned, so only perfect practice makes perfect sex.

This universal truth is so important when it comes to sex, because it’s a topic that can sometimes be a sensitive subject between you and your partner. Your partner might be hesitant to ask for what they need in the bedroom because they’re worried about hurting your feelings. As a result, you’re just further ingraining bad habits instead of correcting them.

Here’s what you might need to hear about your performance in the bedroom, but aren’t.

1. Do your part. Nothing’s worse than a partner who just lays there like a dead fish, seemingly disinterested. Show enthusiasm, be vocal, and move with the action.

2. Take control every now and then. Unfortunately, the guy seems to be generally expected to be the aggressor/dominant one in a sexual encounter. Turning this around on him is an exciting way to keep him on his toes and even help him out if he’s tired and also a lot of fun.

3. Men don’t care if you’re not perfectly groomed. So, your legs are a little scruffy, you haven’t cleaned up down there, and you don’t smell like you just came home from a day spa. Trust me, they will get over it. As long as you practice good, basic hygiene, it’s not imperative that you be pristine at all times. Men are realistic and understand that it takes time to be completely groomed at all times, and who has that time.

4. Remember that communication is key. Don’t let them waste 5 minutes doing something that’s not working for you. Sex isn’t the time to be shy and polite, tell them what’s working or what you need and everyone will be happier.

5. And so is listening. Don’t take it personally if they’re not feeling what you’re doing and ask to try something else. That thing your ex really loved may do nothing for them. Everybody’s different, and it might be best not to tell them what your ex liked in this first instance.

6. Don’t freak out if they don’t get off. There are so many factors that can cause this to happen, but it’s almost never because you’re not attractive enough or good enough in bed. There’s a cultural stereotype that all guys love sex 100 percent of the time with anyone, always. Maybe they’re not in the mood, are stressed, lacking an emotional connection, or so many other things. Don’t beat yourself up.

7. They need foreplay, too. So much of the fun of sex is in the mind. A lot of it is about the build-up and anticipation. Just as you need foreplay to fully enjoy the experience, so do they and they also enjoy the visual impact of sex which can mean dressing in some sexy lingerie or putting on a little show.

8. Don’t forget the romance. Guys love romance as well, it might not be the Mills and Boone’s romance that you enjoy but also like to be seduced and also enjoy the emotional aspects will work on them as well.

9. It’s totally possible for them to not be in the mood. A lot of us can think that sex is all a guy thinks about and wants to score all the time, this is not correct and we have to understand that sometimes they simply are not in the mood and nothing we do is going to change that.

 10. They need to know your kinks. Especially if they’re something physically aggressive. They are not just going to jump out on a limb and guess whether you liked to be spanked without getting you mad. If you want to get what you want, you have to ask for it.

11. Talk dirty. The sexiest move in the bedroom is enthusiasm, period.

12. Don’t always wait for them to initiate. Sex may not be on their mind until you put it there. If you’re in the mood, but he’s not acting, go for it.

13. Don’t do anything halfway, especially oral. If you could describe any act you’re partaking in as “dutiful” or “half-hearted,” then he’s not enjoying it.

14. Don’t worry, they love how you taste down there. Many women can be self-conscious about this, but I’ve never heard any man bringing it up as an issue.

15. They’re not trusting that you’re on birth control until they REALLY know you. Don’t take it personally. Safe sex is very important to you both and until you both decide that you are in a full time relationship and have both been tested you should always use condoms. It’s a huge risk to take not to and the guys have to bear the brunt of the sacrifice in having to wear the condom anyway.

16. Condoms are going to make it take a while. They’re desensitizing. If he’s taking too long, be prepared to finish things by other means. More foreplay can also help.

17. Sex is a lot of cardio. They could use a breather every now and then. It really helps when you go on top or otherwise take control for a spell.

18. They don’t care if you’re sweaty afterwards. Considering what you just did, don’t worry about it.

19. They’re super-sensitive after they finish. Particularly after oral, so be gentle.

20. Remember to pee after sex.  Somehow, some women still don’t know this. UTIs are real, ladies and it isn’t pleasant.