We all like to think that we are the best lover in the world or more simply the best lover our lover/s have ever had. This also includes knowing that we have completely satisfied them and that they couldn’t live without the pleasures we give them.
Are we all delusional or what?!
Whilst we may be great lovers we have to be honest with ourselves and know that we are not always going to have the perfect 10 rating from every lover we have. You just have to make sure it doesn’t go down too low in the score of things, I know I would never want a low score.
Obviously, there are many reasons that our performance may not be on point at any given time, for example you may be tired, sick or simply not in the mood.
It is also very different for both men and women as I don’t know if you can call it lucky but women can fake an orgasm really easily and it’s not that easy for men to do so, they still can but not like a women. With faking we can get away with making our lover think they are amazing and we sound orgasmic which in turns can trick the other into the idea that we are a great lover ourselves.
The next question is should we fake it… check out our previous blog I’m Cuming…I’m Faking to give you a heads up on if you should or not.
So what do we do at these times, well it depends on why you think that you may not give 100%. If you are unwell it might be best to hold off getting hot and sweaty until you are feeling healthier. If it comes down to feeling tired or not in the mood there are things that you both can do to awaken both you and your libido up to get that higher score that we desire.
Getting away from TV and computer screens and stopping the caffeine 
or alcohol before going to bed can really be an added bonus as all of these stimulate our bodies but not in a positive way. Go to bed a little earlier and stimulate each other instead. You can’t disagree that would be more enjoyable that being a couch potato.
Stimulation can start by just talking to each other, having a time in open uninterrupted communication is high in any kind of relationship and without it you are almost doomed in the bedroom. Lay in each other’s arm whilst you are having your chat, this is a form of closeness that helps to achieve a more amorous feeling. So if you were not in the mood this can help you to feeling a little more like getting some action with your lover.
Now don’t think that we have to always put on the performance of a lifetime every time that we are intimate with anyone as this is just impossible as you would be exhausted if you have a regular sex life. But if you are only having sex once a month, then perform you must!
We also have to realise that sometimes we simply just don’t gel with certain lovers. This can make us decide to break up with them or sometimes unfortunately it can make lovers cheat. It is a sad reality that does occur, but if you really believe that you are just not right for each other it is best to end the relationship instead of hurting anyone with cheating. The pain from a relationship ending is easy compared to learning that your lover has cheated on you. It’s like do you rip the Band-Aid off slowly or fast. Fast is always much better.
But I digest…
Even the most sexual of people can have off days and I don’t think if you 
are in a long term relationship that a below average romp is going to be the basis that your partner is going to put you on. It is ourselves that put the unrealistic expectations on ourselves.
As stating in our faking blog, we don’t always need to have a mind blowing orgasm to be satisfied. Just having the closeness can be a 10/10 experience.
So let’s all just chill out and enjoy each other and ourselves…