A friend recently asked me if I have ever gone through a ‘dry spell’! A time when I for whatever reason wasn’t having sex. The reason she was asking is because she was going through one and didn’t really know why and if there was something wrong with her.

I believe it can happen to every sexually active person at least once in his or her lifetime or to be more honest a lot more than once. But in most cases there is no one thing at fault, but there is nothing wrong with you if you do have a dry spell.

There can be many reasons and situations that will bring one on but the important thing we have to understand is firstly we are talking about your sexual health both mentally and physically and it is something that we do have to address before it can affect us in a negative way.

Our sexual health is something that a lot of us don’t always think about and understand how important it is to being happy and healthy.

With your usual day to day activities of work and social commitments with friends and family sometimes we can let things slide a little and this also includes both people in and out of relationships.

If you are in a relationship there can be times that you are just simply too tired or you just want to have a good night sleep! And this can lead to wanting a few good nights sleep or simply you just can’t be bothered with all that is required to fulfil your partners or your own sexual needs, and you may get in a rut. You can even think this way when you are single, arr I can’t be bothered. This may sound pretty bad but it is recoverable.

If you believe you are going through it you have to pull yourself out of it and get back into the swing of things. It doesn’t mean that you have to have sex or be sexual every day you just can‘t become complacent and not do anything about it.

We look after our bodies by eating well and exercise, our minds by reading and communicating with others why shouldn’t we make sure that we look after our sexual needs as well.

There is so many different ways to ignite your own desires. And yes, it has to start with you especially if you are denying your lover your body and attention. Which in turn you are denying yourself pleasure.

Remember the feelings of being wanted and needed, especially if you are part of a couple. Your partner desires you, what a stimulating sensation to have through your mind and body. Now lets get that feeling back.

You can start very simply by making a certain night of the week a lot of people call it date night but you don’t have to go out anywhere. Sometimes this can be hard because of financial or family commitments.

When it is your special night, dress up for the occasion. It can be something as simple as a nice dress or suit to the sexy lingerie that is at the bottom of your draw. Then proceed to just relax and enjoy the night together. Again, if you have children this does not have to stop you. They can have an earlier bedtime every now and again.

Get to know each other again, explore each other not just physically but mentally as well. Once you start to reconnect your sexual desires will increase and you will want to bring that passion back more than just one night a week.

If you are single it can be a lot easier, just get your favourite toy out of your bedside draw make sure it has fresh batteries or it has been charged up ready and go for it. Relax and let your fantasies go crazy if it’s only once a week at first it is sure to increase when you get your mojo back.

Our sexual health can be what can give us that extra little step in the morning or that little smile through out the day. And isn’t that worth it.

by Jenifer Grant