Whilst we love to be pleased by our partner there are a couple of things that can turn us off. And here are a couple of things that may help you out.

We love to return the favour of pleasing especially when it comes to oral sex. Giving head, BJ, sucking off, whatever you call it. But whilst we are doing the deed there are a few things that can make it not so pleasurable.

Holding our head where you want it or pushing it up and down can bring on the gag reflexes. If we can go that deep naturally we will, because we want you to enjoy what we are doing to you. But the fact that we can feel like we are about to throw up on you doesn’t really appeal to us and it can also make the eyes water.

We will also practise to take more and more of you if you let us do it at our own pace.

When we finish pleasing you orally we will wipe our mouths before we kiss you if you want, and some of us would like you to do the same.

Some people like tasting themselves through their partners mouths, others don’t. It is a good gesture to check and that goes for both sides.

The kiss, wipe your mouth if required and make the kiss seducterary not a sloppy kiss like you would receive from your grandma/pa. You can tell a lot from a kiss, especially the first kiss and you can even fall in love from a first kiss. If it is slippery there might not be a second kiss.

A man can be aroused by a lot of things. And for a lot of men this can mean that he has an erection and are ready to go. From my experience, it hasn’t taken that long to get him to a full erection.

Woman however are a little different, whilst we are in the mood and feeling aroused mentally it doesn’t always mean that our bodies are ready. We need a little extra time spent on us so that our own natural lubricant can be released. And sometimes we need a little help with other lubrication. Extra lube can also increase the pleasure for both partners. There are so many different pleasure enhancing stimulants available for both partners to enjoy.

Don’t go off half cocked (yeap that’s a pun) and jump on top and go charging before she is ready. This can hurt and be very uncomfortable, not only for your partner but for yourself as well.

This also goes with being too rough. Obviously, there are things that we like, for example the gently pulling of our hair or a smack on the bum. But know where each others boundaries are.

Then of course there are some of us that like a little more rough play than others. This is something you work out together. And can change your sexual relationship, a little BDSM can be fun.

When the action is heating up make sure you use all your moves. Don’t be a one hit wonder that only has one trick up their sleeve and that’s the only one you use. Even though we might enjoy it we can become a little bored with the same old position every time. Make sure you change it up and be adventurous.

There are moaners, talkers and even the ‘religious’ (sic) during sex. But you don’t want to be the one that is way over the top with any of them. Yelling out “OH GO, OH GOD, OH GOD” throughout the whole session can really become a turn off.

Too much moaning can actually start to make your partner think that it’s not all real. Most of us have watched some porn before and the over the top moaning is a bit much.

But to me, the worst thing is hearing nothing at all until the words “I’m coming” are spurted out. I want to hear a little more than that, I want to not only feel that you are enjoying yourself but I want to hear it as well. Can you imagine if both parties don’t say anything throughout until they both come? Oh, how depressing! Have you heard the expression, ‘laying there like a dead fish’?

When it comes to coming, never be the only one that climaxes. If your lady hasn’t climaxed and you have, the gentleman thing to do is to help finish off a great session.  A lot of woman can only climax via clitoral stimulation. Grab a vibe out and off she goes. This of course goes for the guys too, if they need a little extra help we have hands and a mouth so go for it.

When it’s all done and dusted there is no hard and fast rule of what you do afterwards. Some people like to cuddle, some like to just lay back and enjoy the orgasm and sexual pleasures they just received. And some even just want to get up and leave… opps. But if you’re staying the night, try not to just roll over and go to sleep.

Yes we know that when a guy is done his body naturally goes into relax mode which makes him want to sleep and we do understand that, but a woman feels more stimulated after and it can take us a little longer to sleep. So a little something will go a long way and it does feel pretty good to have some kind of intimacy after fooling around.

Just a couple of tips to think about as sometimes we can all become a little complacent about our moves in the bedroom.