Sexting cops a lot of slack from the media. It feels like every other week one of the many Australian news programs talks about the dangers of sexting and urging women to just keep their clothes on. Apart from the massively unfair amount of victim blaming going on, it seems like many people aren’t aware of how fun a sexy text or a naughty nude can be in a trusting relationship!

A few cheeky, sexy texts or a picture here and there can be a great way to spice up your relationship – kind of like dangling the carrot in front of the horse, they see what they could be having and the eagerness to pursue you grows! It’s also a fun way to keep things interesting in long-distance relationships, or with fly-in-fly-out couples. It’s hard going from a frisky, frequent sex life to nothing at all so a little bit of sensual communication goes a long way during these times.

However, the world is not always a safe and loving friendly place, so there are a few precautions that you should take before trying this out. Firstly, make sure that this is a consensual act. While you may feel that it is okay to send a lover a naughty text or picture out of the blue, they may not feel the same way. Like anything involving sex, make sure they’re okay with playing along.  If you’re both unsure, you can talk about your boundaries together; maybe you can only do dirty messages after working hours, or maybe you both agree to delete images after viewing, the main point is that you both agree with how and what you’re sending.

Next, I recommend that you absolutely do not send pictures to anyway you don’t trust completely. Your husband? Sure. Your girlfriend of several years? Sure. That guy you met last week at a friend of a friend’s party? Definitely not! Also, you don’t have to feel pressured into sending images back, even if they send you something first.

Finally, and this is a super easy one – keep your face out of the picture. We live in a world where there are literally thousands of sexy images online, and not all their owners know that they’re on there. Keep your privacy a little more secure by making sure your face isn’t included in your cheeky shots. Should someone leak an image, or should a phone repair person see it on your partner’s phone, you won’t be recognizable. Like any superhero, your alter ego is safe and distanced from your more scandalous adventures. Oh, and another thing to take into consideration is don’t do any sexting when you are intoxicated, you may end up sending it to the wrong person.

So that’s the nitty gritty of sending sexy stuff via text. It’s officially time to pull out the camera and take some very happy snaps!

You may even find that you enjoy looking at your pictures as much as your partner does. Fun photos can be a great confidence booster inside the bedroom, but also outside of it too! There’s nothing like walking down the street knowing that you, yes you, are one stone cold fox.

It’s so true. Now, where’s my selfie stick gone?