It doesn’t matter if you have been together for one year or twenty years, you know how important passion is in your relationship. But did you know how important fantasies are in having a happy relationship?

Being able to communicate your desires to your partner, keep things new, and add imagination to sex will do wonders for you — both in the bedroom and in life. 

Whether you want to admit it or not most people have had a sexual fantasy thought or dream at one point in their lives. It is nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about, it is actually quite healthy.

Sexual fantasies can differ between the sexes, women may have pleasant romantic fantasies more frequently than men. Men, however, fantasize more frequently about sexual romps including being a bit promiscuous and being involved in swinging and group sex.

We have listed a few fun and exciting scenarios and sexual fantasies that you may have already tried or you may want to spice up your love life a little, but don’t just go by our suggestions mix it up a little and think up some of your own.

1. The Boss/employee: Role playing is a common scenario in fantasies as we spend so much time at our workplace that it isn’t any wonder that we may have had a few naughty thoughts about the boss or a co-worker. So why not bring this home and dress up in your work attire, get behind the desk, and re-create the hot scenario that’s been on your mind? The allure of having sex with a co-worker, especially your boss, has to do with gaining power.

2. Ravishment: A lot of women fantasize about this passionate and forceful kind of love. Why? Researchers felt that by imagining the man telling her what to do, the woman is able to give herself “permission to do the raunchy, hot sex stuff she feels a little embarrassed about, but deep down really does want to try.”

3. Romantic Story Book Lover: This fantasy is more based on love that can be found in romance novels, but we as a society have come a long way since Mills & Boon’s. There are so many different romance novels available to tempt us.

4. Exhibitionism: Have you ever had that tiny thought in your head that you would love it if someone happened to have watched you having sex, you are not alone. A large number of people love the thought of it and so much so that do what they can in the hope that one day it may happen. It could be having sex in a public place late at night and someone may pass by seeing you. A hot and heavy session in a hotel with the curtains open, maybe someone from a neighbouring building is watching. It simply could be the thought that someone could have seen you or the thrill of actually being caught. Make sure you put on a good show.

5. Voyeurism: The opposite of exhibitionism, you like to watch, it could be spying on the neighbours or the couple getting it on at the beach, this fantasy is a common one. One easy way to make it happen? Go to nude beach or a sex show with your partner.

6. Mutual masturbation: Unfortunately, this is something that a lot of people think should be an alone enjoyment, but it doesn’t have to be. Watch each other please themselves, it is a great turn on and it can also help to assist to knowing a little extra about how they like things to be done.

7. The stranger fantasy: This is a hot fantasy, very mysterious and sexy. Make a night of it, change the way you dress, hair style maybe a wig, names and personalities meet at a bar and take them back to your hotel room for a night of stranger passion.

8. Make a sex video: We know they are out there, people make home sex movies all the time and it can really get the juices flowing. Just make sure you keep it in a safe place where no-one else is going to find it, or delete it after you watch it.

9. Threesome: This one can be a difficult one for some people. We may fantasies about having a 3^rd person involved in our sexual action but do we really want it to happen. If you decide to do it make sure you and your partner really have a very honest and open conversation about what you want, and you both have to agree to everything. If you do have a threesome, enjoy and go wild.

10. Public sex: This doesn’t mean exhibitionism, this is having sex in public places simply as a turn on. It could also be that you are just hot and horny for each other and you just can’t wait.

11. Outdoor sex: Something as simple as having sex in the backyard, or the pool or even the secluded park. Having the sun and wind on your body whilst making love can be exhilarating.

12. Airplane sex: The mile high club used to be so well known years ago but in today’s society with security on planes it is not as easy to get away with it, but it could be worth a try.

13. Using sex toys: Whether alone or with your partner sex toys provide immense pleasure. There are a variety of couple sex toys available now to enhance your love making. A lot of woman cannot orgasm from penetration alone and need some clitoral stimulation, whip out the vibrator and place it on your clit whilst having sex and your orgasms will increase. You both will enjoy that.

 14. Visit the strip club: Not for everyone and not only for the guys, it can be exciting watching our other half looking at a beautiful woman taking off her clothes. Also remember he is coming home with you and you know what mood he will be in.

15. Domination: Power is a rush, there’s no doubt about it. Many women dream about having a man obey their every wish, so why not unleash your inner dominatrix and try it out in the bedroom? You can do this by simply calling all the shots or make commands with whips, handcuffs, etc. Either way, you’ll be in total control and he’ll be completely devoted.

16. Submission: Many women also fantasize about being submissive and losing control to their partner. The movie Fifty Shades of Grey has taught us a little bit more about being a submissive, but it is up to you on how far you want to take it.

17. Teacher/student: The schoolgirl fantasy can involve dominance and spanking, but it doesn’t have to. For some, it’s sexy outfit to rip off.

18. Knight in shining armour: Who is going to rescue and seduce you?

19. Put on a strip show: Guys will surely love this one. But for the ladies, it’s just as enjoyable. You get to put on your sexiest lingerie, take it off and tease him in the process, private lap dance included. The woman will have control and the man will be turned on and begging for more.

20. Use food: Ice, fruit, whipped cream, you name it. It can all enhance your sexual experience. Why not try some yummy body paint, it tastes great and is a lot of fun. Seduce your partner with food play and hit their erogenous zones in the process.

21. Uniforms: Life guard, fireman, police officer the choice is yours dress up and have some fun.

22. Play doctor: Sick and the only way to fully recover is with an orgasm? Doctor to the rescue.

23. Act out your favourite sex scene from a movie: Get into character and re-create your favourite cinematic sex scene. Whether it’s from Fifty Shades of Grey to something you saw on a porn DVD, discuss the scene with your partner and get ready perform for each other.

24. Sensual massage: With so many beautiful scented massage oils and massage candles you will both enjoy the art of massage.

24. Erotic spanking: Why do people love kinky butt-smacking? Aside from the physical pleasure, it is kinky and it’s fun. Talk to your partner about whipping you into shape.

25. Personal trainer: Hate working out? Here’s a way to enjoy it. One of you is the personal trainer and the other is the obedient trainee. Drop and give me… can have a whole new meaning.

26. Hot mechanic: All dirty and greasy from working on the car, this can turn a lot of woman on, actually turn it around and we are sure a lot of men would be turned on as well.

27. Boat sex: May sound a little different but put it in context of a romantic cruise and you have a whole different scenario.

28. Feathers: Whether you choose to be tied up or not, have your partner tease you with the light touch of a feather.

29. Group sex: Certainly not everyone’s fantasy, but if you enjoy threesomes and are curious about bringing more partners into the bedroom, this might be one a thrilling and liberating ones to explore. But you still need to have that talk to make sure you are both happy with what you are doing.

30. Hotel maid: Maybe it’s the allure of being on holiday but hotel sex is exciting and liberating, which may be why the maid fantasy is a hot one. Can’t make it to the hotel? With a sexy maid costume and knock from “housekeeping,” you can re-ignite the spark in no time.