When it comes to erogenous zones, I of course love and deeply appreciate them all—but there’s a soft spot in my heart for the neck.
One of my favourite ideas about the neck as an erogenous zone is that both men and women respond heavily to neck stimulation—but in extremely different ways. Men and women not only have preferences about which part of the neck you stimulate, but also how…and why!
Different Areas of the Neck
Before we delve into the differences in how men and women respond to neck play, let’s look into the parts of the neck that are commonly used for sexual stimulation. The neck might not seem like a huge sexual canvas, but it does have various zones with different effects:
• Back
• Front
• Nape
• Behind the ear
Neck Play By Gender: MEN
Most men are extremely turned on by neck nibbling and biting. Generally, for men, the neck is used primarily for the stimulation that it brings. Since the neck is covered in fairly thin, sensitive skin, it is a popular erogenous zone for men, as they tend to have tougher, rougher skin on the rest of their bodies than women, which decreases their overall sensitivity.
In my experience, men’s favourite neck spots to be stroked, nibbled and nipped—men respond well to varying pressure—are behind the ears and on the nape of the neck. Men love varying pressure and stimuli, and they tend to prefer more powerful stimulation. This is why gentle biting on the neck is extremely popular. If you can pair it with simultaneous nipple play or alternate gentle biting and feather tickles, you’ll get extra points! There are even more extra points in it for you if can throw in heavy breathing or whisper dirty talk into his ear at the same time.
Neck Play By Gender: WOMEN
While women, like men, love the physical stimulation that erogenous zone neck play brings, the majority of women report that their favourite part of neck stimulation during sexual activity is the physical intimacy that it brings.
The neck is an extremely personal part of the body, despite that fact that it is exposed. Just think about it—walking up to someone and putting your hands on their neck is a huge no-no, even though doing the same thing with their arm or shoulder wouldn’t be such a faux pas. The neck is a readily visible but highly unavailable area, making it more intimate.
Since women look at neck-based stimulation as an act of intimacy, we tend to prefer light, slow kisses. We generally like to have the back and the nape of our necks stimulated and like measured, sweeping motions. If you’re a guy looking for brownie points, whisper sweet nothings into her ear as you touch her neck and/or gently blow into her ear. We also like gentle nibbling, but try to intersperse it with sweet and seductive kisses.
Erogenous Zone Neck Play All-Star Tip
The neck is a great place to nuzzle and bite, but never underestimate the power of a sensual neck massage. Since both genders tend to carry stress in their neck and shoulders, a thorough massage of the neck can loosen it up for sexual activity. It will also bring blood to the surface of the neck, so be sure to end your sensual neck massages with seductive kisses. If you’re giving a neck massage to a male partner, try running your nails up and down his neck. You’ll send sexy shivers straight down his spine.
Erogenous Zones: The Neck—the Conclusion
We all know that the neck is an important erogenous zone, but many couples don’t use it to its full potential. Recognise the importance that gender plays, and don’t graze by the neck too quickly. Prolong excitement with a sexy neck massage, and incorporate fun tools like nails, feathers or even a vibrating bullet or egg, which can be sent to the nether regions when you’re finished with the neck!