I wonder if you could guess which secret male sexual fantasy has become surprisingly common today. Apparently, it is fantasising your wife or girlfriend having sex with another man.

This may take some people back a little as unfortunately, men whose wives or girlfriends cheat on them have been made to feel like they are weak and inferior and they are unable to satisfy their lover and this is why she goes elsewhere. This of course is not always the case when partners cheat, but this is for another blog.

Let’s get back on topic of men fantasising about their lovers having sex with another man, be it a stranger or someone they know. This has been stigmatized as cuckolds, so you have to wonder why this fantasy has become popular in DVD’s, magazines and sexual stories in recent years.

So why would some men want to fantasies about their lovers with another man and even more intriguing is why some couples actually make his fantasy a reality.

I think the first thing that we have to look at is that men fantasize about their lover being with another man, they aren’t fantasizing about their partners cheating on them. I believe you will be hard pressed to find anyone that wants their lover actually cheat on them.

Looking into this fascinating male fantasy I have done a little digging and found out that the fantasy can be made out in quite afew different ways in the mind of some men whilst they are alone masturbating and why not, their partners are beautiful sexy women which a lot of men would find sexually attractive. This in itself is a turn on for men, knowing that another man wants to screw his wife.

The classic three-some, where another man is having sex with the wife/girlfriend as well as their partner.

Watching, just watching their partner having sex with another man. This brings out the voyeurism in the man, he can simply just sit back and watch another guy please his lady. He may be sitting in a chair masturbating whilst they are getting hot and heavy.

Group sex where there may be more than one guy having sex with her. Some men really get off on having the image of the partner being a horny slut. (This is not to be confused as in a derogative manner)

Peep Show Sex where she may be having sex with a guy whilst her partner is hiding somewhere watching them or it may be via camera.

No Holds Barred Sex, this is usually because a husband feels he can only have certain kind of sex with the mother of his children but he is okay with the thought that another man can do lots of naughty kinky stuff to her.

As stated the majority of men wanting to be cuckolded is all about the fantasy but it can become a reality in some couples relationship. Swingers, partner swapping and open relationships have increased in the last decade or so and has become a little more acceptable in some circles.

With this in mind it can completely change the dynamic of a relationship and not always in a positive way, so it is highly recommended that you really discuss the matter of fulfilling a fantasy very openly and have any rules stated from the beginning.

Emotions are a tricky little number we simply can’t always control them and this can come into play if you decide to play with others. Jealousy, embarrassment, fear, shame, anger and resentment and the big nasties in emotions and once out can be hard to put back in.

Sometimes it can be better to simply share the fantasy in words and not by action, who knows your lover might be turned on just as much as you with the thought of being that little extra bit of naughty in front of you with some strange man. To be honest, a lot of women do fantasise about being with someone else when they are masturbating and even when they are having sex with their partners. Most of us don’t want to admit to it, usually because we believe that it will upset our partners.

The end result is up to the guys, if they want this wonderful little fantasy to stay in their minds only whilst they masturbate or share their thoughts with their partners in words only. Or if you are both really into it putting it into action.

Make sure you all stay safe and have fun.