Sadly, the clitoris might as well be the sphinx to some men. It’s like a mythical creature. They don’t know where it came from and they only have a vague idea where it is or what it is for. Luckily, of course, men are teachable.

If your male lover thinks your clitoris is a unicorn, never fear—you can show him where it is and how to use it. In this blog post, we’ll show you how to help him find it. Stay tuned for help showing him just what to do… or you can buy adult sex toys designed for the clitoris, like a vibrator, to give him a ‘helping hand’.

Four Tips to Help HIM Find YOUR Clit

Tip #1 – Give Encouragement 

Men are easily motivated, but also easily frustrated. If they can’t find it right away, they are likely to give up and move on. So, throughout the process of helping him find your clitoris, be sure to offer all the encouragement that you can.

This ‘encouragement’ can come in the form of moans, grinding your hips, biting your lip, making sexy eye contact and verbal expressions like ‘right there’, ‘oh that feels sooooooo good’, etc. Pay close attention to him to find out what types of motivation work best—then, reciprocate!

Tip #2 – Show him the Way 

You (hopefully) know exactly where your clitoris is. So, the easiest way to help him find it is to show him. Next time you’re ‘gettin’ frisky’ guide his hand down to where your clitoris is located and then press his finger with yours right on the spot. Then show him the pressure, movement and speed that you like. Give him encouragement to continue; being direct is sometimes best.

Tip #3 – Draw him a Virtual Map 

Physically finding a clitoris isn’t rocket science, but you do have to know a little about female anatomy. So, let him know that to find any clitoris—you’ll be doing our whole gender a favour—you can simply trace the lips of the labia upwards. Where they join at the top, the apex, is where the all-powerful clitoris is located.

Tip #4 – Do it Yourself…at First 

Men are extremely visual creatures, so don’t be afraid to show him yourself. Next time that you’re passionately kissing, gently push him away and say “watch”. Then begin stimulating your own clitoris—as sexily as possible! He’ll get the idea and follow your moves… eventually.

Climax!

Ensuring he can find your clit just makes sense. After all, we women have multiple points of stimulation, but the clit is special. It’s always going to be an important source of stimulation, and there are so many different ways to do it. For sex toys, Australia’s best choice is Femplay… your answer to female sexual stimulation!