It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is, cuming is a unique experience for each individual and extremely enjoyable either alone or with someone else. Yet unfortunately we don’t always have the delightful experience of cuming.

So what is Cuming? You can click on and read what the official meaning is or more simply, it is a word we use when we are having an orgasm. Many of us shout it out a number of times, especially if it is a good one and also, to make sure the action keeps going until you have actually climaxed.

Orgasms are as unique as who you are, they are completely individual. What you feel isn’t what someone else feels.

So what happens if it doesn’t happen? Do you fake it or do you simply not do anything about it?

It doesn’t matter if you are having sex or masturbating, both can leave you unsatisfied. Whilst masturbating you could be working on it for awhile and for many reasons you just can’t get yourself off. Maybe you’re in the mood but your better self isn’t. This can lead to you just giving up, especially if time and privacy is an issue.

When you are having sex with a partner and you just don’t get there do you feel the need to fake it so that your partner believes that they did a good job?

Will this jeopardise our future orgasms if we do fake it? If we are shouting out “I’m Cuming I’m Cuming” but we are in actual fact “I’m faking it, I’m faking it” our partner will believe that they did a great job, and yes they may have as you enjoyed yourself but just not to the extent of having the big O.

They may believe that those moves they just performed are the moves to get you there and may continue to do them on a regular basis. This can lead to a lot more faking which is not what we want.

There are some times that just the act of sex is good enough for you and that you do not need to orgasm. If you enjoyed yourself and don’t need any more there is nothing wrong with that.

If you find that after the deed is done and you feel like you are left hanging you can always take matters into your own hand and finish the job off yourself. Grab your favourite toy or masturbator and off you go. Sometimes this can be enough as your partner may watch and may get them ready for the next session.

We shouldn’t be shy about what we want or need. Sex toys are a great way to give us that helping hand sometimes. And can also add to the excitement in the bedroom.

If you are thinking that it is just women that are faking it, think again. Men fake it too. Sometimes things just don’t happen and they also don’t want to let down their partners by not cuming. From my research it is harder for a man to fake it than a woman.

A lot of people believe that if your partner doesn’t give you a climax then they are not very good in bed. Pffft…I find it hard to believe that every one of these people who believe this, has an orgasm each and every time they have sex.

It is not only about the orgasms it is about the closeness you feel when you are together and the satisfaction you both have with pleasing each other (again it doesn’t mean you have to Cum).

So next time you may feel like you need a bit of extra stimulation to bring on the Big O, grab yourself your favourite toy and top it off. The best thing to do is not to fake it.