Are you in a relationship and you both have thought about swinging, partner swapping or just having lots of sex with different people? 

It can sound very exciting and can be all of your fantasies all rolled into one.

Swinging is a non-monogamous activity of physical intimacy.  Like a recreational activity, some can think of it as a sport.

Swingers indulge in sex acts with someone other than their spouse/partner, with the full knowledge and consent of that person.

Usually swinging activities occur when a committed couple engages in sexual activities with another couple, multiple couple or single individuals.

This can happen at swingers clubs, organised parties or amongst known social groups.  There are also a lot of online sites especially for people wanting to engage in the swinging lifestyle.

Where do you start, the first thing you as a couple would have to do is have one of the most honest conversations you may ever have with your partner.  Tell them what you want and visa versa.  If there is something that is off limits and you never want them to do, now is the time to speak out.  Not half way through a swinging session as it could turn into an argument between you both and include other people, making it very uncomfortable for people that are happy and comfortable with swinging.

How far do you both want to go?  What do you want for your partner?  Sometimes one partner will want one thing and the other not at all.  But then you can also have a partner who is allowed to play at any time as long as they tell their partner about it.  We will all have different rules than any other swinging couple.

Exhibitionism may be all that you are interested in, you may both just want to be the centre of attention with people just watching you both have sex together.

Voyeurism if you just want to watch other people.  It’s like watching your own personal sex show, just for you.

Mouth Play is when you both feel comfortable about giving and receiving oral sex by other couples.

Sex Play is having sex with someone of the opposite sex.

Same Sex Play is most commonly between two women unless specified at the club or on the invitation to a party.

Group fun of course means multiple partners.  You can be swapping between a number of people during the night.

Threesome is the most popular way of starting in the swinging lifestyle.  The range of the threesome is up to the couple.  They may start with another female and may eventually add another male instead.  Being two males for the one female.

Taking it a little further can be for example: bondage, which is usually a specific themed night at swinger clubs and parties.

There are rules for swinging and this is not just your rules.  Everyone else will have his or her rules as well.  The main rule is NO means NO.  That’s all that is needed for this rule it is self-explanatory.  Stay safe, condoms are a must.  You are having sex with strangers.  I would suggest always making sure a condom is used even if a person or couple become a regular thing.  Be polite, and courteous especially if you are attending a party.  Make sure you are punctual.  And be friendly.

Hygiene is very important.  Shower and shave prior to going out.  Perfume, cologne will be sensory appealing to others.

You should wear something comfortable as you may be in those clothes all night or on the other hand you may have them off half the night.  Only take what you need, it might be easy to loose your things when the heat starts rising.

Have fun, do what you feel comfortable with and enjoy yourselves.  Best of all, when the fun is over go home with your partner and become horny all over again by what you both just did and how it made you feel.

Swinging can be invigorating, exciting and fulfilling maybe more than you can even imagine.  You can explore your favourite fantasies in a safe area.  But it is definitely not for everyone.  The little green jealousy monster can come out at any time. Especially if one partner is thinking that the other is having more fun with someone else than they would do with him or her.

So, again make sure you are both truly honest with each other before you take the first step.  If there are any uncertainties, you’re not ready or you should consider not participating in swinging at all.

But if you are both keen to give it a go leave your inhibitions at home and open your relationship to a new exciting sexual relationship, then go for it and enjoy.