{"id":1116,"date":"2016-04-21T11:55:54","date_gmt":"2016-04-21T01:55:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/?p=1116"},"modified":"2021-11-19T14:23:29","modified_gmt":"2021-11-19T04:23:29","slug":"majority-guys-want-anal-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/majority-guys-want-anal-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Why do the Majority of Guys want Anal Sex?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Why do the Majority of Guys want Anal Sex?<\/b><\/p>\n

(I need to vent and I thought why not share my experience but I need to do it anonymously)<\/i><\/p>\n

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\"anal<\/a>I am one of those people that hate it and believe it\u2019s not for me and I am at the end of my tether, I don\u2019t know what to do anymore. My husband wants anal sex and has done so for years, yet I don\u2019t. I don\u2019t like anything about it at all. I don\u2019t like the thought of anything going inside my arse.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t consider myself a prude at all, I enjoy sex a lot but the mere thought of anal sex and my bum hole closes up right up.<\/p>\n

Now don\u2019t get me wrong! I have tried it, many years ago I let my boyfriend now husband have anal sex with me. We were both drunk and I thought why not give it a go. At the time because of the alcohol I can\u2019t say if I enjoyed it or hated it, I think it was just an experience. The funny thing is we didn\u2019t do it again nor did it come up in conversation for many many years. If it had I might have a different feeling about it now.<\/p>\n

If we continued to do it every now and again from the first time who is to say that we wouldn\u2019t still be doing it now and we wouldn\u2019t have the issue we have at the moment.<\/p>\n

There was one time that he accidently went in there as we were having sex and I was bent in a position that it just went from the right hole to the wrong hole and OMG the pain. I just yelled at him telling him to get out of the bedroom and I tried to cope with the pain.<\/p>\n

Again, it never came up again for a long time, until in the last few years when he started talking about wanting it and also trying to stick a finger in every now and again. This is where it comes in that I am at the end of my tether. I don\u2019t want it!<\/p>\n

\"soft<\/a>I have tried on a couple of occasions with a toy but it hasn\u2019t always turned out well. Once was when we used a small soft butt plug<\/a> and we had sex and I was able to cope with that okay, I still didn\u2019t want to do it but you do try to make your other half happy.<\/p>\n

But then one night he tried to stick a hard butt plug in my arse and I was honestly really trying, but hell it was hurting. I asked if he put lube<\/a> on it as you should always do and he said yes. When I just couldn\u2019t do it he got the shits and walked out of\"hard<\/a>the bedroom. Boy, was I pissed off and then I find out later that the \u201clube\u201d he put on it was his spit. Pissed off again. Spit is not lube, it doesn\u2019t even come close to being lube.<\/p>\n

This could possibly be another reason to add to the fact that anytime he goes near my arse I say no straight away. Tries to put a finger in it, nope! Of course again, no lube he thinks spit is fine as lube and my tight arse is just going to open up and say yes please. No, I\u2019m afraid it is not.<\/p>\n

I am so over it, he constantly talks about it, jokes about it, asks me to do it and for me it still comes down to I JUST DON\u2019T WANT TO DO IT and why should I. Why should I do something that I really do not want to do and no matter what, I know I am not going to enjoy it as I don\u2019t find it appealing at all?<\/p>\n

He hates it that I say no, he calls me Vanilla and that I am boring which is quite selfish in my opinion. Even though I am married I don\u2019t think I should feel bad for not wanting to do it and I don\u2019t think that he should get the shits with me either. \u00a0I am pretty relaxed in everything else and love a good time but leave my bum alone.<\/p>\n

I understand that a lot of people find it enjoying and that is fantastic\"i<\/a> for them but I am just not one of them. I just wish he would just listen and stop with talking and asking about it. There are a lot of other fun things that we can do instead.<\/p>\n

Thank you for allowing me to get this off my chest,<\/p>\n

Mrs V<\/p>\n

Femplay Customer<\/p>\n

Remember that sex is supposed to be an enjoyable experience for both parties, if you are not enjoying it there is something wrong. Speak with your partner and try and work through any issues that you have. Mrs V stated that she had been still willing to try it to \u201cmake the other half happy\u201d.<\/p>\n

Of course we all want our partner to be happy but you are also one part of the partnership and deserve to be happy as well.<\/p>\n

If anyone is wanting to try anal sex there are a number of introductory guides that you can read to get the most of the experience and also some basic tips<\/p>\n