It should come as no real surprise that women take longer to climax than men do, but in recent years there\u2019s a growing amount of research to suggest that a large portion of women struggle to reach orgasm at all during sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s start by clarifying that this isn\u2019t necessarily a reflection on someone\u2019s partner. As Durex Sex & Relationships Expert Alix Fox once told HuffPost UK, \u201cI speak to a lot of women who either think they can\u2019t come cum at all, or that they can\u2019t get there using fingers alone \u2013 only a vibrator\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are several reasons why you might not be managing to climax either with a partner or during solo play, which we\u2019ll cover in the points below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we increasingly tend to rush certain tasks \u2013 hanging up the laundry, washing the dishes, getting ready for work in the morning\u2026 and having sex. While there\u2019s nothing wrong with having a quickie, it\u2019s important to set adequate time aside for longer sex sessions. Women in particular often need 20-40 minutes of continuous stimulation before it\u2019s possible to reach the finish line. If you\u2019re feeling rushed while having sex with a partner, it might be worth having an intimate conversation about the matter, to try a slower, more drawn-out experience and see if that helps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s hard to reach climax during sex if your mind is focused on that overdue project at work, or what groceries you need to pick up for dinner tonight, or those messages you haven\u2019t responded to yet! Try to refrain from those mental to-do lists you like to create for yourself, and be present in the moment. Concentrate on the sensations, and allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s a bit of a cruel Catch-22 that sex can be highly effective in relieving stress and tension, however, stress and tension can prevent you from having satisfying sex. If you\u2019re struggling to relax during intercourse or solo play, consider trialling some common relaxation techniques before your next intimate session \u2013 have a bath perhaps, or meditate, or ask your partner to start with a massage to alleviate muscle tension, for example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We should all be considerate of wanting our partner to enjoy themselves in the bedroom of course, but if you\u2019re constantly in your head about your own sexual performance and ability to meet your partner\u2019s needs, then you\u2019re never going to enjoy a fulfilling sex life yourself. It\u2019s okay to be selfish sometimes when it comes to sex \u2013 especially if you communicate the situation to your partner so that they can spend some time focusing on \u201cjust you\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you and your partner aren\u2019t currently on the best terms, this can have a dramatic impact on your sex life. Communication problems are a particularly delicate factor in what kind of sex you\u2019re having in your relationship \u2013 to put it another way, poor communication and poor sex often goes hand in hand. This issue may be one with a more complex process required to resolve, and perhaps couples counselling could be the best way forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s worth mentioning that this list is by no means exhaustive. Factors like menopause, painful sex and self-inflicted mental blocks can all play a role in your difficulty to reach climax. However, the five symptoms listed above are a good place to start, and with any luck you\u2019ll find that you quickly overcome whatever obstacle is standing between you and the \u201cBig Oh\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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