{"id":278,"date":"2014-08-22T11:11:11","date_gmt":"2014-08-22T01:11:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/?p=278"},"modified":"2021-11-19T13:47:19","modified_gmt":"2021-11-19T03:47:19","slug":"lines-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/lines-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Lines of Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sexual fantasies, fetishes, and even just desires can be a difficult subjects to approach even for those of us who are normally very open and communicative. It\u2019s no surprise considering that sex is so personal, but that is no reason to keep quiet about it. Opening up and communicating maturely about sex with your partner\/s can only make the experience better! Although it might sound daunting, there are plenty of ways to open up lines of communication about and during sex that will make it more exciting and stimulating.<\/p>\n

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Find Out what You Have In Common<\/h2>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here: most of us have fantasies that we don\u2019t talk about either because we\u2019re afraid to be judged for them, we don\u2019t think we\u2019d actually enjoy them, or we don\u2019t trust other people enough to try them. That\u2019s understandable and it\u2019s totally normal to feel that way, but you don\u2019t have to!
\nYou\u2019d be surprised to find out how many people enjoy fulfilling their partners\u2019 fantasies even if they don\u2019t share the fantasy themselves. Simply fulfilling a fantasy makes lots of people feel hot and empowered\u2014it sure does that for me\u2014and it is an incredible way to get even closer to your partner. If you\u2019re thinking that it would be imposing, demanding, or some other such thing, don\u2019t, because it\u2019s not! And who knows? You might just find that you both have some fantasies that you could play out together.
\nIf you want to find out for sure what you two have in common, the internet is your friend. There are scores of different questionnaires online, like mojoupgrade<\/a> that ask each of you, individually, what kind of stuff you\u2019re into, and then reports which answers you both gave. If you both expressed an interest in anal play or bondage, then it will tell you, but if only one of you put down an interest in something, it tells nothing. Perfect for those of us who still want to keep a few sensitive details private.<\/p>\n

Want it? Ask for it!<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re really enjoying something while you\u2019re having sex, let your partner know, ask them to keep doing it, and tell them how you\u2019d like them to do it! You can shout it out in the heat of the moment or bring up what you really liked afterwards. Either way, it\u2019ll make things better. This might seem like a no-brainer, but it\u2019s amazing how many people don\u2019t do it. Everyone likes to hear that they\u2019re doing the right thing, so this is a great way to introduce some positive reinforcement. It\u2019ll make both of you feel sexier and it is a powerful way to keep performance anxiety from ruining things.
\nWhat if you don\u2019t know what you want? You should do some research. A good erotic story won\u2019t just get your juices flowing; it is a useful way to find out what really turns you on and to see what you might want to do, or to have done to you. Find the hottest passage you can and show it to your partner. Who\u2019d give up an invitation to have inspired, lusty sex when it\u2019s literally shoved in their face?
\nCommunication is absolutely the key to a healthy sex life, and there are plenty of ways to do it. Discussing sex, describing fantasies, finding sexual interests in common and just saying what you want are all valid and useful ways of going about it. Even dirty talk<\/a> is a means of communicating, so don\u2019t hesitate to try that out!
\nNobody\u2019s good at it naturally, but once you get over the initial nerves surrounding talking about sex in a clear manner, it\u2019ll quickly become easy and even natural. Plus, after you have a few conversations about your most salacious fantasies, you\u2019ll be able to take your sex to a whole new level and your sex life will never get boring.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sexual fantasies, fetishes, and even just desires can be a difficult subjects to approach even for those of us who are normally very open and communicative. It\u2019s no surprise considering that sex is so personal, but that is no reason to keep quiet about it. Opening up and communicating maturely about sex with your partner\/s … Continue reading Lines of Communication<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/278"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=278"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/278\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1566,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/278\/revisions\/1566"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=278"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=278"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=278"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}