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\nI don\u2019t want to hurt my partner,<\/i> or I don\u2019t want to get <\/i>too hurt<\/i> are common, justified, and absolutely healthy thoughts, but (responsibly) putting them aside is a necessary part of the experience! How do you do it, though? What are the rules? Read on for some do\u2019s and don\u2019ts.<\/p>\n
Do<\/h2>\n\n- Find Your Limits
\n<\/b>Before going all out, it\u2019s a good idea to see where and how hard you and your partner like to get hit. Knowing each other\u2019s limits well will help you come up with sexy stuff to do on the fly! Remember to find your limits everywhere, because the same slap on the arse won\u2019t hurt nearly as much as on the face or nipple.<\/li>\n- Start Slow and Ramp Up
\n<\/b>Even after you\u2019re established your limits, don\u2019t start right there. Instead, it\u2019s way sexier to start softly and slowly. Doing so effectively warms you both up and builds up anticipation and arousal. Believe me, going from soft taps to harsh smacks will be WAY sexier than anything else.<\/li>\n- Establish a Safe Word
\n<\/b>I\u2019ve said this pretty much every time kink has come up. Why? It\u2019s THAT important. You never want to put someone else or yourself in a painful, uncomfortable, and truly unpleasant sexual situation. A safe word is your ticket out if things are headed in that direction.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nDon\u2019t<\/h2>\n\n- Go Past Your Limits
\n<\/b>Seriously, you don\u2019t want to take anyone out of the moment. Best case scenario, you kill the mood. Worst case, you hurt someone physically or emotionally. Once you have boundaries set, stick to them.<\/li>\n- Ignore Safe Words
\n<\/b>This goes without saying. Always respond immediately to the safe word: all stop.<\/li>\n- Surprise Your Partner
\n<\/b>By this I mean don\u2019t do anything that you haven\u2019t discussed beforehand. For instance, if you\u2019ve never discussed playing with things like clothespins, then don\u2019t use one, or try ANY kinky stuff that you haven\u2019t agreed to, even if it seems tame to you, personally. Responsibility and trust are huge aspects of kink, and you should never violate that.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nWhen all is said and done, getting into whipping play<\/a> isn\u2019t hard at all! You may think that most of these rules are simply common sense. That\u2019s because they are! The most important part of having any kind of good sex, kinky or not, is knowing what you both want and respecting each other\u2019s wishes and boundaries.<\/p>\nNow that you know what and what not to do, why not start finding the right gear for the job?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Thank you! May I have another? If that sent your thoughts in a dirty direction and not in to a culinary one, odds are that you\u2019re already into spanking, whipping, and everything that hurts in the best kind of way. Those of us who\u2019ve already felt and dealt a sexy whipping know how gratifying being … Continue reading Do’s and Don’ts of Whipping<\/span>
\n<\/b>Before going all out, it\u2019s a good idea to see where and how hard you and your partner like to get hit. Knowing each other\u2019s limits well will help you come up with sexy stuff to do on the fly! Remember to find your limits everywhere, because the same slap on the arse won\u2019t hurt nearly as much as on the face or nipple.<\/li>\n
\n<\/b>Even after you\u2019re established your limits, don\u2019t start right there. Instead, it\u2019s way sexier to start softly and slowly. Doing so effectively warms you both up and builds up anticipation and arousal. Believe me, going from soft taps to harsh smacks will be WAY sexier than anything else.<\/li>\n
\n<\/b>I\u2019ve said this pretty much every time kink has come up. Why? It\u2019s THAT important. You never want to put someone else or yourself in a painful, uncomfortable, and truly unpleasant sexual situation. A safe word is your ticket out if things are headed in that direction.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Don\u2019t<\/h2>\n\n- Go Past Your Limits
\n<\/b>Seriously, you don\u2019t want to take anyone out of the moment. Best case scenario, you kill the mood. Worst case, you hurt someone physically or emotionally. Once you have boundaries set, stick to them.<\/li>\n- Ignore Safe Words
\n<\/b>This goes without saying. Always respond immediately to the safe word: all stop.<\/li>\n- Surprise Your Partner
\n<\/b>By this I mean don\u2019t do anything that you haven\u2019t discussed beforehand. For instance, if you\u2019ve never discussed playing with things like clothespins, then don\u2019t use one, or try ANY kinky stuff that you haven\u2019t agreed to, even if it seems tame to you, personally. Responsibility and trust are huge aspects of kink, and you should never violate that.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nWhen all is said and done, getting into whipping play<\/a> isn\u2019t hard at all! You may think that most of these rules are simply common sense. That\u2019s because they are! The most important part of having any kind of good sex, kinky or not, is knowing what you both want and respecting each other\u2019s wishes and boundaries.<\/p>\nNow that you know what and what not to do, why not start finding the right gear for the job?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Thank you! May I have another? If that sent your thoughts in a dirty direction and not in to a culinary one, odds are that you\u2019re already into spanking, whipping, and everything that hurts in the best kind of way. Those of us who\u2019ve already felt and dealt a sexy whipping know how gratifying being … Continue reading Do’s and Don’ts of Whipping<\/span>
\n<\/b>Seriously, you don\u2019t want to take anyone out of the moment. Best case scenario, you kill the mood. Worst case, you hurt someone physically or emotionally. Once you have boundaries set, stick to them.<\/li>\n
\n<\/b>This goes without saying. Always respond immediately to the safe word: all stop.<\/li>\n
\n<\/b>By this I mean don\u2019t do anything that you haven\u2019t discussed beforehand. For instance, if you\u2019ve never discussed playing with things like clothespins, then don\u2019t use one, or try ANY kinky stuff that you haven\u2019t agreed to, even if it seems tame to you, personally. Responsibility and trust are huge aspects of kink, and you should never violate that.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
When all is said and done, getting into whipping play<\/a> isn\u2019t hard at all! You may think that most of these rules are simply common sense. That\u2019s because they are! The most important part of having any kind of good sex, kinky or not, is knowing what you both want and respecting each other\u2019s wishes and boundaries.<\/p>\n Now that you know what and what not to do, why not start finding the right gear for the job?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Thank you! May I have another? If that sent your thoughts in a dirty direction and not in to a culinary one, odds are that you\u2019re already into spanking, whipping, and everything that hurts in the best kind of way. Those of us who\u2019ve already felt and dealt a sexy whipping know how gratifying being … Continue reading Do’s and Don’ts of Whipping<\/span>