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<\/p>\nOur lives are a power game. Sometimes we have too much power, other times not enough. Very often, we have little to no control over the power structures in our lives. This power imbalance leads us to seek dominance and submission in other parts of our lives\u2014especially in the bedroom.
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\nWhether you feel a pull to be the dominant or submissive partner, a large percentage of couples are playing power games in the bedroom, whether they know it or not. Many however, aren\u2019t familiar with how to start a rewarding, upfront dominance\/submission game in the bedroom. Here are a few suggestions.<\/p>\n
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Blindfolds<\/b> Handcuffs\u00a0<\/b>Like blindfolds, handcuffs build trust, but they\u2019re more about restraining movement and less about physical stimulation. When choosing handcuffs, you\u2019ll ideally want to purchase some through an adult shop<\/a>, which will increase comfort and<\/i> safety<\/i>. Once you\u2019ve outgrown simple handcuffs, consider other bedroom bondage<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n A Trust Game<\/b>Trust games don\u2019t just build trust, they also build intimacy. A trust game depends on your level of comfort, as you need to find something that one or both partners is hesitant to do\u2014and then use the game,accompanied by a large number of verbal cues along the way, for safety, to break through barriers.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n A Punishment Box <\/b>Dominance and submission is about a power structure that is defined by carefully enforced rules. That means you need to pick strict rules and punishments. A great way to do this is to create a \u2018punishment box\u2019. This box can contain cards with punishments listed on them, including physical punishments like paddles, pleasure\/orgasm-based punishments (generally based on withholding) or physical stimuli like clothespins to be placed on the nipples. If the male is the submissive, consider using a cock ring<\/a> as a physical punishment. The punishment box can be as vanilla or as kinky as you like, depending on how far you\u2019ve taken your dominance\/submission games.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n Since dominance and submission are based on trust, mutual respect and love, ending your game should be done with tact. Instead of ending with a punishment, which could create resentment, end with loving gestures. Whoever was playing the dominant character\u2014which may change with each encounter\u2014should initiate a gentle massage, a romantic bath or tender cuddling. Ending in this way will bring things to a relaxed conclusion and create additional intimacy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Our lives are a power game. Sometimes we have too much power, other times not enough. Very often, we have little to no control over the power structures in our lives. This power imbalance leads us to seek dominance and submission in other parts of our lives\u2014especially in the bedroom.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/392"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=392"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/392\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":396,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/392\/revisions\/396"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=392"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=392"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.femplay.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=392"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nIf you haven\u2019t tried blindfolds, now is the perfect time. By incorporating a blindfold into your lovemaking, you will ask the blindfolded person to put their trust in you\u2026which is what dominance and submission is about. Start with a blindfold that is incorporated into your usual routine. Then, push the envelope a little more by incorporating the other senses. For example, try using a brush as a paddle, ice-on-skin or other types of stimulation.<\/p>\n<\/li>\nHow to Finish your Dominance\/Submission Game\u00a0<\/h2>\n