Why do the Majority of Guys want Anal Sex?
(I need to vent and I thought why not share my experience but I need to do it anonymously)
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I am one of those people that hate it and believe it’s not for me and I am at the end of my tether, I don’t know what to do anymore. My husband wants anal sex and has done so for years, yet I don’t. I don’t like anything about it at all. I don’t like the thought of anything going inside my arse.
I don’t consider myself a prude at all, I enjoy sex a lot but the mere thought of anal sex and my bum hole closes up right up.
Now don’t get me wrong! I have tried it, many years ago I let my boyfriend now husband have anal sex with me. We were both drunk and I thought why not give it a go. At the time because of the alcohol I can’t say if I enjoyed it or hated it, I think it was just an experience. The funny thing is we didn’t do it again nor did it come up in conversation for many many years. If it had I might have a different feeling about it now.
If we continued to do it every now and again from the first time who is to say that we wouldn’t still be doing it now and we wouldn’t have the issue we have at the moment.
There was one time that he accidently went in there as we were having sex and I was bent in a position that it just went from the right hole to the wrong hole and OMG the pain. I just yelled at him telling him to get out of the bedroom and I tried to cope with the pain.
Again, it never came up again for a long time, until in the last few years when he started talking about wanting it and also trying to stick a finger in every now and again. This is where it comes in that I am at the end of my tether. I don’t want it!
I have tried on a couple of occasions with a toy but it hasn’t always turned out well. Once was when we used a small soft butt plug and we had sex and I was able to cope with that okay, I still didn’t want to do it but you do try to make your other half happy.
But then one night he tried to stick a hard butt plug in my arse and I was honestly really trying, but hell it was hurting. I asked if he put lube on it as you should always do and he said yes. When I just couldn’t do it he got the shits and walked out of
the bedroom. Boy, was I pissed off and then I find out later that the “lube” he put on it was his spit. Pissed off again. Spit is not lube, it doesn’t even come close to being lube.
This could possibly be another reason to add to the fact that anytime he goes near my arse I say no straight away. Tries to put a finger in it, nope! Of course again, no lube he thinks spit is fine as lube and my tight arse is just going to open up and say yes please. No, I’m afraid it is not.
I am so over it, he constantly talks about it, jokes about it, asks me to do it and for me it still comes down to I JUST DON’T WANT TO DO IT and why should I. Why should I do something that I really do not want to do and no matter what, I know I am not going to enjoy it as I don’t find it appealing at all?
He hates it that I say no, he calls me Vanilla and that I am boring which is quite selfish in my opinion. Even though I am married I don’t think I should feel bad for not wanting to do it and I don’t think that he should get the shits with me either. I am pretty relaxed in everything else and love a good time but leave my bum alone.
I understand that a lot of people find it enjoying and that is fantastic
for them but I am just not one of them. I just wish he would just listen and stop with talking and asking about it. There are a lot of other fun things that we can do instead.
Thank you for allowing me to get this off my chest,
Mrs V
Femplay Customer
Remember that sex is supposed to be an enjoyable experience for both parties, if you are not enjoying it there is something wrong. Speak with your partner and try and work through any issues that you have. Mrs V stated that she had been still willing to try it to “make the other half happy”.
Of course we all want our partner to be happy but you are also one part of the partnership and deserve to be happy as well.
If anyone is wanting to try anal sex there are a number of introductory guides that you can read to get the most of the experience and also some basic tips