You are hot and heavy and then suddenly there is a part of the man’s body that doesn’t seem to be as in to the heat as much as what you are. It is like it has fallen asleep even though you are wide awake, you have no erection.

It can happen to anyone for a number of reasons. It can be from stress, performance anxiety, illness or it could be a medical condition but it doesn’t have to mean it is the end of your sexual adventures. There are so many different and fun things that you can do to help.

The first thing we have to do is understand how this very important part of the male body works. When a male becomes aroused his brain sends signals to the nerves in his penis to relax the blood vessels so that the blood can flow. Then high pressure closes it up and with this traps the blood in there and the penis becomes rigid and erect.  When a man loses his erection this becomes reversed which makes his penis become soft.

As stated this can happen to anyone at any time but it is not an issue that is “it’s not you it’s me” or if the man is not attracted to the person that he is with, it is pretty rare for a man to lose an erection for this to happen usually there are other factors to consider. Of course, this is if their lover is not putting them down in any way which is a sure fire way for anyone not to be sexual aroused.

If it is the first time it has happened or the second or third there are things that we can do to assist in making pleasure time possible and enjoyable. You can obviously change it up a little with oral play and there are a lot of toys that you can play with that doesn’t mean you need to have an erect penis to enjoy yourselves.

If it happens more often than not you have to be supportive and then you both can work out what may be the underlining issue of why it is happening. Talk to each other and go through things like if they are nervous, stressed or feeling depressed in any way and if these are not the issues maybe seek medical help especially if it becomes a common issue. Seeking medical help sooner rather than later is beneficial for you both.

Erectile dysfunction is very common and can be often be treated with medical assistance and if not there are many adult toys that can assist with providing assistance for you to both still enjoy the intimacy of sexual intercourse.

Some experts believe one thing you can do to help is when you are grabbing your penis whether you are alone or with a lover is to not hold on too tight. Hold on with a softer touch and use lube to make it a nice pleasurable less evasive experience.

A man’s health is very important in all aspects of life and if you are having issues in the bedroom you have to make sure that you are doing everything you can to make sure that you are including your sexual health in the equation. Eating well, exercise and sleeping well are all very important when it comes to all of your health.

If it is a continuing issue even after seeking medical advice the first thing you have to remember is that you don’t have to have an erection to enjoy sex. You need to learn to expand your sexual vocabulary and enjoy yourself.