With the little tease of the trailer that has been recently released for the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey” it made me think…
Have we all got a slight kinky side to us just lying dormant waiting to come out? Or are we happy with conventional sex, also know as ‘Vanilla Sex’?
The first thing we need to find out is what is ‘Vanilla Sex’? This can depend on different cultures and individuals but a lot of people believe it to be that you only have sex in the missionary position. Others may believe that it is sex which does not include sex toys, role playing or any kind of bondage also know at BDSM which includes light bondage, leaving a little room for oral sex and mutual masturbation.
But ‘Vanilla Sex’ is not for everyone and they need a little more so people have been using sex toys alone or in a relationship for years adding a little spice to the bedroom.
And now recently as we have been introduced to the erotic novels like the Fifty Shades book series has it opened the eyes of many to experiment and explore with themselves and with their partners a little more.
But were we kinky before that and just too scared to admit it?
So what is kinky sex? Kinky can be from light to hard core it really depends on what you like or how far you want to experiment. Light kink can be including sex toys, maybe a little light spanking a few choice dirty talking words.
Then to medium kinky something as simple as roll playing, tie up your lover making them your Sub and you’re the Dom and doing what ever you want to them. But always make sure you have discussed a safe word. And if either person says the safe word everything must STOP immediately. If it doesn’t you will lose the trust with your partner and this can stop these fun kinky times.
After this it is completely up to you and how far you want to go you just have to make sure that you feel safe and comfortable when you are playing. Anal sex, whipping and flogging and not to forget the different harnesses, ropes, hogties etc, I could keep going with so many fun and interesting bondage equipment must have’s.
I believe we all have some form of kink in us starting from the beginning of our sexual experiences when we went through puberty and we started to explore our own bodies. It takes people different amounts of time to let out any kinky. There can be many reasons for this. The way you were raised, family values which can also include religious ideas. And also just the respect you have for yourself and others and some people are concerned with how they are perceived by others.
But having a kinky side isn’t something you should feel ashamed or concerned about it is something that should be explored and experimented with in a safe environment.
Or maybe you have been playing with ‘Vanilla Sex’ through your whole relationship and have decided to spice it up a little. My advice would be to talk to each other, make sure you are 100% honest with each other and to take it slow, respect and be patient with each other. And enjoy the wonders a little or a lot of kinkiness can bring into your bedroom or anywhere you want.
Unfortunately, we have to wait until Valentines Day 2015 for the Fifty Shades of Grey movie to be released to tease and tantalize us a little more and get our juices flowing and maybe give us a few more ideas of play within the bedroom.
But we don’t have to wait for our wild side to come out to play, what are you doing tonight?
Go get your kinky on…
By Jenifer Grant